Let’s Talk about Sex

Did that sentence make you uncomfortable?

Good…..

Every week I attend a fabulous group for midlife professional women which is all about us as women and very little about us defined by our job titles.  There’s very little traditional networking.  We all talk about the things that affect us now, at this stage in our life.

It’s an international group and no subject is off limits.

This week the subject got around to sex and we quickly realised that women the World over are reluctant to talk about sex not just with their friends, but with their partners and other women.

I want to change that.

Sex is great.

I loved it so much I made it my career for a short while.  It’s also what motivated me to do what I do now and to study for my psychology degree.

I have much to thank sex and my high libido for.

However, as midlife hit, sex stopped becoming so much fun.

It became a chore.

It became painful at times.

It became something I began to dread.

I could quite easily live without it.

How ironic that just a number of years earlier I was earning my living from it and now I really wasn’t interested.

My background made me recognise that I needed to do something about it.  Not that I was getting pressurised by my partner, but I wanted to do something about it before sex between us became a dim and distant memory.

This is the stage many of the women on my Tuesday night call are at.

As soon as I shared my background, the conversation opened up. There seemed to be a collective sigh of relief that here was someone giving them permission to talk about sex, and the questions started coming thick and fast (no pun intended).

These are successful career and business-women, all rediscovering their bodies and themselves at this stage of midlife.

There was no embarrassment, no titillation, no judgement.  A group of intelligent women of a certain age openly talking about their personal lives and wanting to find solutions.

I see so many relationships getting into trouble in midlife due to so much ignorance and misunderstanding about sex at this time of life.

Yes, life gets in the way.  Stress and worries in the workplace can impact our desire.  The teenagers in the next bedroom can cramp your style a bit but it’s possible to reinvigorate your sex life if you want to.

Libidos change.  What turned us on at 20 isn’t necessarily going to do the same at 40 or 50 or 60.

Improving our sex life and relationship has a massive impact on our productivity in the workplace too so you owe it to your business or your boss to be having great sex in midlife.

Get in touch with me and let me help you bring some passion back to the bedroom that will have an impact in the boardroom.  Or ask me a completely confidential question that will be answered on my podcast, in my Facebook group or YouTube.  It’s a win, win.