Pussy Power

What does the term ‘Pussy Power’ mean to you?

It’s a term I’ve been seeing more and more lately, and it really bothers me.

Not that I object to the phrase, as someone who used to work in the sex industry it takes a lot more than that to offend me.

It bothers me because I feel it pushes the whole feminism movement back decades.

I recognise that the term is meant to engender female empowerment and all that that evokes, but as one friend commented recently, “If men started talking about ‘penis power’, there would be an outcry.” And she’s right.

I know that sex sells, let’s face it, I made more money and worked much less when I was literally selling sex than at any other time but that’s a whole other story.

I feel that ‘pussy power’ is degrading to women and offensive to men.

It suggests to me that women have nothing more than ‘sex’ to sell, and that men will only pay attention if women are selling ‘sex’.

To me it says, ‘please objectify me, but don’t be surprised if I then get angry when you don’t respect me for my intellect’, talk about double-standards.

When I worked in the sex industry, the highest earners were those who were more discrete, who understood the adage ‘less is more’, and who under-promised but over-delivered.

There is an undeniable link between sexual energy and success, I’ve studied it, I continue to study it and I’ve lived it.  I even have a keynote speech about it, but do we really need to reduce it to its basest form just for shock value and sales?

I really do know (probably more than most) the true power of the pussy, but to promote ‘pussy power’ rather than female empowerment is to me just a cheap gimmick and doesn’t help women in our fight for equality, or to be seen as more than a sex object.

We are all sexual beings, but our biggest sexual organ is our mind.  Let’s focus on showing that off instead of ‘what we had for breakfast’!

‘Pussy Power’ will increase ten-fold when we invite it to dinner with our minds.

I for one will continue to empower women by giving them the confidence to tap into their true feminine power without feeling like they have to become sex objects in order to do so.