What are you choosing?

Your relationship is dull and boring.

You’re stuck in the same old, same old.

It feels like you’re stuck in a relationship Groundhog Day.

Many of my clients tell me they feel;

• • Trapped
  • They’re doing what they SHOULD be doing instead of what they WANT to be doing,
  • They’re keeping everyone else happy rather than themselves

It’s all down to our subconscious which is designed to keep us safe and alive.

That’s great but it’s also stopping you from having a truly fantastic relationship and living the life you want.

You know all those times you’ve said to yourself “what if?”? That will be your subconscious reminding you that by taking a risk you could potentially cause you harm.

Your subconscious reminds you of all of the reasons why doing something you WANT to do rather than what you’ve always done before is better for you.  It tells you what you SHOULD do.

We carry on doing what we’ve always done and our subconscious keeps quiet, knowing that until the next time we consider doing something different, we’re safe and free from harm.

But what our subconscious doesn’t know is that this is part of what causes our relationships to fall into a rut; to become safe, dull, boring, routine.  Whilst it may be keeping us safe from physical danger, it’s actually damaging our long-term emotional health.

Being in a relationship that doesn’t fulfil your needs on either a physical or emotional level is equally as damaging as a stampeding woolly mammoth was to our ancestors – that our subconscious is evolved to protect us from!

Taking the initiative in your relationship is highly unlikely to cause you harm but the human brain hasn’t evolved quite a fast as the environment around us and that reptilian brain is kicking into survival mode and trying to protect you from the perceived danger of a stampeding woolly mammoth!

You have a choice; either carry on living life on repeat in Groundhog Day, allowing your subconscious to keep you safe from woolly mammoths, or you can break out and create you’re a blockbuster life that includes a strong, healthy and robust relationship and all of the benefits of the sexy little extras of the ripple effect!

What are you choosing today?